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Letter to My Readers

My Dear Reader,

Thank you for taking an interest in my humble (internet) abode. Let me give you a background of how I got here, I'll try my very best to keep it short. I first left my hometown less than a year ago to live on my own in the busy city of Bangkok. I was 21 and until then I was raised quite sheltered compared to most people. 

My very first few months in the adult world were a mix of adventure, excitement, homesickness and a lot of missteps. At first, all I really wanted to do was fit in with my contemporaries. I was a quincentennial millennial for about six months, my wardrobe consisted of a lot of basic b*tch (excuse my french) closet staples and my vanity was filled with ultra dark makeup. I went out almost every night, filling my social life with nothing but booze and blur. It took one nightmarish night that turned out to be the wakeup call that I needed to make me realize what I was doing to myself and just how... not me, it all was. 

It got me thinking about the old fashioned upbringing of my grandmother, looking at her generation filled me with longing. Women of the past radiated charm and sophistication, they never revealed too much and proved that less was indeed more. 

One night as I watched Grace Kelly float about the screen in High Society, I had an epiphany of some sort; Being a lady is not dependent on the generation nor the situation one is in, instead, it is entirely depended on the lady herself.Having good breeding and proper decorum is not just gifted to the Royals and the women of high society but they make up a way of life that anyone can live once one makes the commitment to change. It doesn’t depend on money, education or nationality it all depends on the willingness to change and the courage to be different.

From that moment on, I vowed to change. And I did, slowly. I bought all the etiquette books my money could buy (huge books as thick as the bible) and poured my heart and soul into them. I also donated all my clothing and adapted a new wardrobe consisting of only soft colours and dresses. Gone were my dark purple lipsticks and in replacement were nude mattes and sheer pinks. I deleted all my dating apps, blocked all men that were not gentlemen and halted all together my night time prowling in clubs and bars. I became a morning person and opted to enjoy my days in the sun rather than in the dark, neon-lit night. Above all, I learned to respect myself and to treat myself like the way I would treat my best friend.

Before this turns into an unbelievably positive spiel, like everything in life, its two steps forward, one step back. 

And as I watched myself fall out of sophistication, I grew deeply unhappy. I suppose I set too much of a high standard for my life that I couldn't keep up anymore. Living in Bangkok also had a hand in my slight pitfall. My boyfriend pointed out one day that we're living in a City of Sin and most foreigners come here for (almost) only one thing, sex. Therefore, there was a stigma here for Asian girls, especially for those who wear a lot of dresses. 

My interpretation of ladylike dressing before was to forego all pants and shorts indefinitely and only wear dresses, disregarding the length. That was my first mistake. The second was being too ignorant of the fact that I have relatively big bosoms. Long story short, I got unwanted attention from the wrong people and I was presenting myself not very elegantly. I forgot the art of modesty. 

So here I am now after that blip, rejuvenated and eager to start anew. I do realize that I'm not a complete expert at being a 21st-century lady but I'm learning each and every day. I'm trying to strike a balance between being old-fashioned yet still being contemporary, dressing vintage but still mod (I said hello to pants and shorts again!) and making chic choices without being snobby. 

It's hard but I am determined to find my rhythm soon. I remind myself constantly that no matter the past and no matter the present, anyone can be a lady. 

Even you, my dear. 

Affectionately Yours,

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